Disappointment: The Lesson I Didn’t Know I Needed

There was a time, not long ago, when I found myself wrapped in a cloud of disappointment, almost daily.

Disappointed by people. By results. By my own actions.
By things not going the way I imagined.
By the silence that followed something I created with all my heart.

And the truth is… it hurt. It felt personal.

I had a vision. A plan. A spark of inspiration.
And when reality didn’t reflect the beauty I saw in my mind…Boom. Disappointment. Again. And again.

But something shifted. Slowly. I began to understand that disappointment doesn’t come from what others do. It comes from expectations.
From the stories I told myself about how things should go.

We women… we’re artists of scenarios.
“I’ll say this, and he’ll surely reply like that.”
“I’ll post this, and of course it will go viral.”
“I’ll offer this meditation with love, and women will surely feel it.”

And when they don’t respond like we imagined?
It hurts. It feels like rejection.
But it’s not about them.

It’s about us.

About the control we try to keep.
The validation we seek.
The need to feel seen, understood, celebrated.

I started asking myself:
“What if I give without needing a reaction?”
“What if I create, offer, love and let go of the outcome?”

I’m still in this process.
But it changed everything.

Because giving from abundance feels very different from giving out of need.
Creating because I must express myself, not because I need applause.
Sharing from fullness, not emptiness.

Disappointment, I’ve realized, is not the enemy.
It’s a teacher. A mirror.

It showed me where I needed to heal, where I was still gripping too tightly to control, where I lacked trust in the unfolding of life.

And it gave me a choice:
To remain hurt, or to return to myself.
To soften, breathe, and ask:
„What was I expecting? Was that mine… or just a fantasy?”

I’ve made peace. Not just with others. With myself.
And even if a little shadow of disappointment still appears sometimes…
I see it. I breathe. I let it pass.

Now I create with more clarity.
With more courage.
With more love and less fear.

So if you’ve been disappointed lately — by someone, something, or even by yourself —
Please know this: It’s okay. You’re human.

Just don’t stay stuck in that feeling.

Ask yourself what needs to be released, realigned, remembered.
Give yourself grace.
And when you’re ready… come back to your heart.

One day, like me, you’ll give something… and realize you don’t expect anything in return.
And in that moment, you’ll feel peace.
True, quiet, liberating peace.

And if this message found you at the right moment…
I want you to know: you’re not alone.
You are understood.

And if you ever feel the need to talk about it — I’m here.
I won’t promise to fix it.
But I will listen. With an open heart.

Sending you a warm hug,
And a gentle reminder:
Have faith. All will be well.

With love,
Aida